What’s the story? What came before? What’s next? What’s mine to do?

These questions might be eternal, but right now in 2025, they seem kind of urgent. Perhaps the fire alarms clanging everywhere maybe make the songs of eternity through the ancestors all the more relevant, maybe more so than yet another hype or alarm about artificial intelligence, the imminent collapse of every kind of ecosystem, and the tempting call to transcend our humanity with yet more modern tech.

Completing, Feather Medicine, the first book of family constellations facilitator and trainer, Francesca Mason Boring, the stories brought a kind of peace that the simple and timeless nature of parents, children, family, and ancestral wisdom can bring. Somewhere, experts have validated the stories of the natives to confirm their presence here at least 10,000 years. Francesca states this with little fanfare or need to credit any experts. But it resonated at a deep level, that the way most modern people look at the world is at the second hand of the clock. The native Americans give attention to the stories that are more stable and sustaining.

The work of Family Constellations deserves much more common awareness. It slowly comes. It can feel uncanny and even miraculous to the modern mind, so I won’t try to explain it. But it’s pretty natural and normal to indigenous ways of being and thinking. Francesca cites Rupert Sheldrake and morphogenetic fields. I did not know that the originator of Family Constellations, Bert Hellinger and Sheldrake were friends. I’d read Sheldrake’s work long ago, as have I also been benefiting from constellation work for quite some time. The “knowing field” of constellation work is amazing, and something to experience, where it seems the life experience and wisdom of those no longer with us on this earth, ancestors who have passed away or maybe ones we didn’t even know we had, seems to just naturally emerge.

If you don’t want to find a workshop in your area (or even online), you might just check out the Netflix series AnotherSelf which features a constellation workshop in each episode (2 seasons so far and a third is in the works). It’s filmed in Turkey, and in Turkish, but the setting makes it feel a bit like going on a vacation to a resort town, which is where most of the stories happen.

Just one last word about this. This “woowoo” stuff has been a bedrock of organizational systems change work for decades. It was brought to software conferences to support coaches make changes, and simpler forms of constellation work are a staple of certified organizational coaching systems. There are so many books about this topic, from many many angles. It is not “woowoo” to use family constellations to visualize a system and help use the placement and orientation of the various aspects of a system (which could be people, or abstractions) to help understand and relate from more embodied knowledge. One book to check out that can allow you to explore this methodology in the safety of your office with pieces of paper on a desktop would be John Whittington’s Systemic Coaching & Constellations.

Early March of 2024 on a break from supporting my wife through her cancer journey which ended five weeks later in her passing, I walked this creek very near our home. It’s well over a year since I could bare to review, edit and post this today.

The work of Strauss & Howe on Generations has deeply motivated me since reading the books posted in the opening of this video, Generations, The Fourth Turning, 13th Gen, Millenials Rising and The Fourth Turning is Here. These two researched this topic before the nineties before publishing their first book, Generations in 1992, based on much original source material research into demographic profiles and history going back at least 500 years. I’d also watched many video interviews and podcasts with Neil Howe. William Strauss passed away over a decade ago. 

The book 13th Gen is out of print. It was written about Generation X, before the name really stuck. It shocked me how much it made sense of my own experience as well as the cultural experience growing up in the cultural summer (60’s and 70’s), and into the cultural fall in college and as a young professional in the ’80’s and ’90’s. Generation X was the generation of “latch key” kids, largely left to fend for themselves, and often considered degenerate. Watch the Breakfast Club, and this makes sense. Remember also the movies with Generation X kids back in the ’70’s and early ’80’s. Like The Exorcist and Firestarter.

There’s not much generation theory in the meditation. It’s more about the times, Winter is Here. It’s why I reference the Game of Thrones, the TV series which premiered with an episode titled “Winter is Coming” back in 2011. According to Neil Howe, the cultural winter began with the Global Financial Crisis in 2007 to 2008, but I’m not sure the season was really evident until 2020. But this “episode” of Mobile Meditations visits the intersection of the theory of the “fourth turning”, this cultural winter, with a very personal “winter”, dark night of the soul, facing loss and grieving, that was really only starting the beginning of 2024. And I faced it with some confidence that spring always follows winter.

The “ukulele uprising” referenced in the title of this post is not a march of miniature guitars storming the capitol demonstrating against size-ism. It’s about how a ukulele has played a role in rising up around some interesting themes of learning, cooperation, and inspiration.

I’m about to conclude a fascinating class called the Yoga of Ukulele offered by the very experienced musician and yogi Josh Brill. It has brought home certain themes and introduced new ones that will take more than one post to write about.

My affair with the ukulele is not a new one. I was gifted an authentic Hawaiian ukulele built by one of the first manufacturers, Kamaka, back in the early 1980’s. I never completely learned a song, but I did enjoy playing chords and noodling with songs from a song book. After that summer in Honolulu it mostly just sat in its case collecting dust.

My ukulele uprising began a few years ago with two events. The first was being loaned a second ukulele by a friend from Paris. He handed it to me in the Seattle area at the end of a Core Protocols Bootcamp. The intention was that returning it to him in Paris would be an excuse to visit. I have made it to Berlin in 2019 and hoped to also get to Paris in 2020, but alas the pandemic crimped that plan. The second event was watching this TEDx Talk about learning anything in 20 hours. I’d enjoyed the idea of world class mastery being accessible with 10,000 hours of deliberate practice popularized by Malcolm Gladwell based on the research by Dr. Anders Ericsson. Josh Kaufman’s TEDx talk took out the need for “world class”, and postulated only 20 hours was needed for learning a new skill. He proved it by giving a decent performance of a medley of pop songs on the stage after exactly 20 hours of study and practice in his TEDx talk.

Since that time I’ve put in some effort and learned a bunch of songs. I’ve had a chance to play for friends and small groups. I’ve generally practiced only a few minutes a day with sometimes weeks between playing, but mostly I’ve kept going. The ukulele from Paris helped as I could slip in into my backpack easily using the sack it came in, and carry it on airplanes when I was traveling every week while coaching. I’m no where near mastering the instrument, but it has been fun.

And it has taken effort. Despite the twenty hour promise from Josh Kaufman, I was shocked how hard it was for me to memorize a single song, even one where I already knew all the chords. But learn it I did. And I learned more mostly with the help of Cynthia Lin on YouTube.

More important than songs, I learned something about learning. The lesson has been even more deeply enforced by Josh Brill’s meditative approach. There are two ways to fail to learn. One is to give up before trying, or getting frustrated. The other way is to give up after pushing through the lesson until all the joy and the music vanishes. Even if I learn something with the push through method, it is a Pyrrhic victory. The way to learn is with patience, compassion, and a mindful pace.

Going slow is often necessary to go fast. Hopefully my Ukulele Uprising will also turn into a Blog Uprising.

This past Saturday in Bozeman, Montana I was fortunate enough to speak from the main stage about Crafting Great Code. You can see the slides here:

The Statue of Liberty seemed so small from Battery Park in Manhattan. We visited that statue as part of a cub scout event, but for me the statue’s relevance didn’t truly register until high school when greater awareness dawned of how many left poverty and oppressive regimes for the promise (if not always the reality) of Liberty.

But this isn’t a post about Liberty. It’s about Responsibility.

Victor Frankyl wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning “that the Statue of Liberty on the East Coast should be supplemented by a Statue of Responsibility on the West Coast… Freedom, however, is not the last word. Freedom is only part of the story and half of the truth. Freedom is but the negative aspect of the whole phenomenon whose positive aspect is responsibleness. In fact, freedom is in danger of degenerating into mere arbitrariness unless it is lived in terms of responsibleness.”

A Statue of Responsibility seemed a vague fantasy some people wanted to install on Alcatraz Island in the San Francisco Bay Area where I lived in the 1990’s. Alcatraz actually was in some sense already our Monument to Responsibility. A prison. But I searched for it recently and was shocked how far we’ve come to having an actual Statue of Responsibility somewhere in California or Seattle. It seems a worthy dream for many reasons. The proposed design according to Victor Frankly mentee Alex Pattakos shows two hands clasped, the hand at the base representing personal responsibility, and the one from the sky “representing us reaching out to whatever ‘to’ is, humanity, some higher power, the world, nation to nation, people to people.”

Many have emphasized the importance of responsibility as a core element of accomplishing anything worth while. It helps to look at the actual word to understand it. Responsibility is the Ability to Respond. A very powerful essay by Yasuhiko Genku Kimura, “Toward a Culture of Responsibility“, notes “Responsibility is the individual’s ability to respond to any situation in life as the cause, not as the victim, of the situation.”

One of my deepest joys at present is my involvement in the Open Space Technology community, about which I have frequently written. But in relation to Responsibility, what I love about Open Space is what Peggy Holman identified as how it supports each participant in stepping forward to “take responsibility for what we love as an act of service.”

So now for the main reason I’m writing this post. Since 2009 I’ve been studying with Dr. Christoper Avery who teaches something called “The Responsibility Process”. It has been invaluable in my personal evolution not just for it’s deep and detailed understanding of the psychological process required to move into a state of true responsibility, but also in the individual and community support it provides for practicing responsibility for a greater experience of freedom, power, and choice. By choosing awareness around my intentions and confronting what is actually going on both within and without, I can, as Kimura-san states, respond as the cause, not the victim. I won’t benefit financially if you join this community, but it has amazing leaders who are choosing responsibility rather than victimhood to create a better world for themselves and those around them. Let my writing here be my hand reaching out to you to support you, in some way, in advancing on your path towards claiming the Ability to Respond.

Other than Dr. Avery, some of the other hands that reached out and helped me up the path of responsibility since my early 20’s are: Anthony Robbins, Dr. Maxine Kaye, Gay & Katie Hendrix, Howard LaGarde’s Alpha Leadership Training, Jim & Michele McCarthy’s Core Protocols, the Man Kind Project, the Coaches Training Institute, and Byron Katie.

What hands have helped you up? How will you keep reaching?

If you are reading these words, welcome to my Revolution. Or Evolution. This is a post about Authority. The slides below were from the talk I presented in Cambridge, Massachusetts at Agile CultureCon this past June. The question of authority has been a passion for some time. The bumper on my first car sported a sticker commanding people to “Question Authority”, which seems oddly authoritarian to me now. And though I liked my own presentation at Agile CultureCon, I’m also questioning it. Uncomfortable as it may be, I love to outgrow and shed paradigms and grow into new ones. Maybe like the caterpillar from MarSea’s poem.

So please, I invite you to enjoy my slides, included here for your convenience. At the SlideShare site, there are notes for most of the slides if you view notes instead of comments. The notes will be easier to see if you click the “Show Less” button.

Many moons have passed since my last post, many moons cocooned from engaging with you here. This post surfaces after a deep period of reflection, activity, and change. From studying coaching to becoming an Associate Certified Coach with the International Coaching Federation; from being a student coach in the SAP Coaching Pool, to becoming an official SAP Internal Coach; and from being an employee to becoming independent and my own boss. This period has certainly felt like a rather tumultuous revolution. And I hope that my revolution will continue.

Revolution means a change in who holds the reigns of authority, whether that be a government or a ruling scientific paradigm. Yet just changing bosses alone won’t make for true change. There’s a clue in a song from The Who, Won’t Get Fooled Again. In the song, it seems to start out nicely. “Take a bow for the new revolution, smiling free with the change all around…”, but the punch line of the song is “Meet the new boss, same as the old boss.”

So, if you viewed my slides, you may have noticed the Dr. Sapolsky reference to a revolution in a tribe of baboons where the alpha males were all killed off due to them eating from a stash of poisoned meat they found that they didn’t share with the betas or any of the females. See my slides for the reference, or do your own research. But I conveniently ran out of time after that slide. It was a grand punch line. Down with all the alpha males! And not the message I (consciously) wanted to convey. I had hoped to show how the use of Open Space Technology and other participatory leadership methods like Sociocracy could help us make the shifts we need in a gentler less wasteful way than through bloody revolutions and grand catastrophic crises.

Since my talk in Cambridge this June, I participated as a staff consultant in training for a Group Relations conference, The Merit of the Other. Group Relations conferences come from the Tavistock tradition which does an experiential deep dive into authority in organizational life by creating a temporary institution where the participants can explore and experiment. The work in a Group Relations conference focuses deeply on the roles we take up. The Merit of the Other was a creative mash up of Group Relations work with Family Constellations. Dr. Kate Regan directed the conference, and the Family Constellations portion was led and facilitated by the talented Lisa Iversen who also spoke at the first Montana Agile Culture House conference, MACH One, in Missoula this past April. Family Constellations, conceived by Bert Hellinger decades ago, enables exploration, understanding, and healing of deeply held ancestral trauma. I’ve participated in more constellations than I can count and have found them more effective than I could possibly express in words.

Perhaps you’ll be inspired to investigate both Group Relations and Family Constellations. With respect to authority they’ve taught the following:

• From Group Relations I can see how much authority we already hold in ourselves to both help and to harm, often times without conscious awareness, as we both audition and are auditioned for roles in dramas. We play victim, perpetrator, and rescuer, and many other roles. It can happen as quickly as a “funny look” when we pass a stranger on the street or someone gives us less clearance room than we feel appropriate on the freeway when they shift into our lane.
• From Family Constellations, the power and authority role of the parent naturally transmits traumatic patterns that children almost invariably pick up, and they pick the patterns up out of love. Surfacing the traumas so we can love more intelligently is possible, but it requires deep awareness, mindfulness, intention, and usually assistance.

Right now, I am listening to Gabor Maté’s brilliant book, “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction“. This eye opening book speaks of Dr. Maté’s work with addicts in Vancouver’s skid row, and follows with deep insights about the nature of addiction based on the latest brain science as well as his own experience. The drug addicts all have had traumatic childhoods, sadly lacking in love and full of abuse. The child’s sensitive nervous system can not process the trauma, and their nervous system uses the addictive chemicals to shut out the pain.

When thinking about a revolution of authority, if don’t want to “meet the new boss, same as the old boss”, it will demand that each of us individually and collectively face the places where we shut down to the truth of our own experience. Of course, starting right here, with me. Long Live my own Revolution!

In May at the World Open Space on Open Space 2013 in Saint Petersburg, Florida, I convened a session concerning one of the official roles in an Open Space Technology conference, the butterfly. This “role”, the butterfly, is quite loose and it is a role one can easily slip into and out of. The butterfly in an Open Space conference is not a session. Instead, a butterfly might be at the food table, or outside the facilities getting some fresh air.

The butterfly role in an Open Space conference invites a great deal of serendipity, as often someone being a “butterfly” will attract another “butterfly” into a spontaneous transformative conversation. My session in Florida was asking those hosting and organizing Open Space events what they thought about dedicating an area in facilities for a such a conference that would intentionally be attractive for butterflies and supportive of their needs, like a “butterfly garden” which contains flowers that draw these beautiful winged insects.

Some of the interesting conversations at that session involved the nature of the butterfly, and the metaphor of the butterfly as used in chaos theory, especially the “butterfly effect” used in the study of weather where sensitivity to initial conditions can mean a butterfly flapping it’s wings in Brazil could theoretically cause a tornado in Texas. But the most important of these conversations involved the path of the caterpillar becoming a butterfly. Inside the chrysalis, the caterpillar digests itself into a soup which feeds the imaginal cells that gradually group and cluster to become the butterfly. Open Space is a wonderfully rich place supporting transformation, both in individuals and in organizations, and the butterfly metaphor is a very potent story.

One of the attendees, MarSea Amani, presented me this poem in Florida which she has given me permission to publish here in my blog.

butterflies turn into slime
a poem by MarSea Amani Nov 12, © 1999. All Rights Reserved.

O humans!
You think it’s so lovely
becoming a butterfly.
You’re fond of saying it.
I wonder why?!

You think it sounds pretty
to do what butterflies do
You think you’ll be pretty
if you change the way butterflies do…..

O humans!
If you but realized
what we butterflies do
to become butterflies
you wouldn’t want to!

stay pulpy worms
hugging the earth
eating all day
for all that it’s worth.

you really won’t want
to do what we do
when we melt into mush
and turn into goo.

O humans!
It’s really quite horrid,
this melting into slime.
it burns and it hurts;
it certainly isn’t sublime.

all that you were
turns into a soupy goo;
and that’s what you eat
to become the new you.

O humans!
You say you will transform
you offer self sacrifice.
wish that such pretty talk
for such change could suffice.

When caterpillars melt
you can’t hear their screams;
our voices have melted
along with our dreams.

we write in the horror
of losing ourselves,
all that we cherished
and all we once felt.

O humans!
for such transformation
you wouldn’t be wishing
if you knew what it took
for all that submissing.

stay a fat worm
eating and sleeping
dodging the birds;
no thought of leaping.

don’t wish for bright wings
to carry you high
into the light
of the limitless sky!

don’t wish to soar
in the clean air above
with no remembrance
of the things you once loved!

stay who you are!
you’re pretty enough!
don’t wish for change!
the way is too rough!

it’s hard enough
to turn worms into goo;
the fire’s even hotter
for creature’s like you.

surely you’ve noticed
that after your prayers
things really heat up
and you’re up to your ears!

surely you’ve noticed
that after you’ve prayed
to be hollowed out
you feel you’ve been slayed!

yes, it’s death you pray for
to be so transformed,
just like us caterpillars
before our new state was formed.

we die to the world
of eating up leaves
of clinging to branches
of fearing bird’s beaks.

O humans!
you say you want a better you,
but you wouldn’t, if you knew
just what was in store for you
what dying to your old self
would do to you

metamorphosis isn’t something
that you do in a day;
it takes all that melting
…day after day.

and it really does hurt.
and it takes a long time
to turn a caterpillar
into a puddle of slime

so that all he once was
is the stuff he can eat
to become his true self.
it’s no small feat!

transformation isn’t something
that you do in a day;
it takes all that melting
…day after day.

O humans! my advice to you:
stay a caterpillar!
life’s easier that way!
your job is just eating!
…day after day.